Regaining Conscious Control: How Small Actions Can Combat Overwhelm.

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Feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or out of control? You're not alone. Many of us experience these emotions, and they can quickly snowball, affecting various aspects of our lives. In this post, we'll explore how taking control of small tasks can lead to significant improvements in your mental well-being.

Things Snowball: Understanding the Domino Effect of Stress

There’s a book on my bookshelf by the dry, quick-witted comic Rich Hall, entitled "Things Snowball". It's a brilliant title, and it perfectly describes how minor issues can accumulate and cause major stress.

Often, clients come to me with burnout, anxiety, or depression, citing a loss of control. When one area of life feels chaotic, it can lead to a psychological domino effect, creating a sense of overwhelm. Uncompleted tasks become intrusive thoughts, filling our stress buckets and increasing anxiety.

Positive Snowballing: Taking Control One Step at a Time

The good news is that we can use this mental snowballing effect positively. A while back, a client felt stuck and discontent despite a successful career in tech sales and an idyllic lifestyle. His frustration stemmed from a small stain on his carpet—a constant reminder of a chaotic event.

A Small Change, A Big Impact

In one session, he decided to tackle that small stain. This small action snowballed into taking control of other areas of his life. He met with his accountant, repaired a leaky roof, and tackled his mental “to-do list” efficiently.

The Power of Small Actions

When we consciously take control of something, no matter how small, our mind perceives it as regaining control over larger aspects of life. You don't need to tackle the biggest challenges first. Start small: wear a shirt to the office, make your bed, or go for a short walk.

Identifying Your "Undertoads"

My good friend, Dave Aron, refers to these small tasks as “Undertoads,” a term from the novel "The World According to Garp". These are the often-overlooked tasks that cause underlying anxiety. By shining a conscious light on them, you reduce their negative influence.

Conclusion: Take the First Step

If you're feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or depressed, ask yourself: What are my Undertoads? Identify those small tasks and take the first step towards regaining control.

Ready to tackle your Undertoads? Share your experiences or tips in the comments below or join our discussion on social media. Let's support each other in regaining control and reducing overwhelm.